3 Steps! Catch Cheating Spouse by Recover Deleted Text Message
Last Updated on April 24, 2023 by Ian McEwan
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Infidelity Problems
Infidelity sucks. Nothing feels more miserable than being cheated by someone you love.
However, circumstances change.
With messaging (e.g. WhatsApp, Messenger, Line, Viber, etc.), online networking, and dating sites, it’s more convenient to cheat on a lover than any time in recent years.
Here is a typical case of seeking help in Quora:
Of course, it’s not an individual case.
And there are some facts you may want to know about infidelity.
- More than 60% of affairs start at work. (Source: Focus on the Family). And 36% of people admit to having an affair on a business trip.
- About 20%-25% of people in the United States have ever cheated while married. And an Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But the rates of infidelity among women increased by 40% in the last 5 decades.
- An emotional affair is more common than a physical affair. According to research from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, about 45% of men and 35% of women had experienced an emotional affair, while 20% of people admit to having a physical affair.
- 54% of Male and 70% of females do not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity.
- The percentage of men/women who admit to infidelity with a brother-in-law or sister-in-law is 17% and the percentage with a net pal is 18%.
- More info about infidelity.
Lovers crave to be loved, but sometimes they just go too far. Alas!
I hope you’ll lucky enough without experiencing these infidelity problems, but sometimes, only it happens to you can you understand the cold hard numbers.
In a nutshell, you should be prepared and know what to do, just in case.
So. How to deal with these shits? How to Catch the Cheating Spouse?
Here is a story about Nancy, who is married, with two kids.
One day her husband Eric came back from a business trip, and Nancy was playing on his new iPhone 8 when Eric was taking a shower when she saw a WhatsApp message appear on the screen: “I need to feel you inside me…” She frowned. And then another message: " I feel so small when you wrap your arms around me…I miss that so much" Something bad happened, Nancy realized and felt everything in her whole life collapse. Instead of freaking out, she put down the iPhone and pretended to sleep after taking deep breaths for a few minutes. It was a long night.
She was deeply upset.
Nancy wished to know every single detail of it before confronting her unfaithful husband.
She decided to check Eric’s phone again the next day, but she found out that the call logs and all the messages in the last five days were deleted. Desperate.
What would you do if you were Nancy?
Here is what you should do to Catch a Cheater
Gather evidence
Think for a minute about how a cheating spouse might try to deny your accusations (e.g. It’s not what it looks like! It’s a misunderstanding, etc.), and you don’t gather the evidence you need to counter what he or she says.
People who are betrayed by their lovers have the right to know what is going on. At least, it will help to strengthen your resolve to address the problem and eliminate doubt from your mind.
So, here are a few practical tips for your reference.
Tip 1. Hunt for clues from daily life
Since a cheating spouse is highly likely to change his/her story, or question your memory, writing journals and collecting bills are the easiest and most effective ways to keep a record of everything in your daily life.
Write journals to keep track of all the detail of your partner’s reported activities, like when and where to go? Are any other people involved? What are the excuses given? etc.
Then collect all the bills, receipts, ATM withdrawals, credit card statements, etc. from your spouse and make a comparison to what’s said and recorded in your journals.
Tip 2. Catch cheater by surprise
Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or make announcements about having to work late, but then come home early, etc.
Tip 3. Spying
Some of you might hire a private investigator or use spy apps to monitor your spouse’s cell phone.
Such as mSpy, which is a top phone monitoring tool people use to track someone’s activities on iPhone/Android or tablet remotely, like incoming phone calls, WhatsApp messages, Facebook, SMS, GPS, etc. in real-time.
Most importanly, these spy apps is hidden on the target's phone. So, you're very likely to stay secret without them knowing.
mSpy Phone Hacker
Hack Android phone and tablet, iPhone and iPad remotely and secretly! All information is visible to you!
Spy on all social media apps, FB, IG, Twitter, Snapchat, etc
View SMS/IMs, call logs, contacts, emails, browser history
Record every keystroke and set alarm for specific keywords
Note: Frankly speaking, all the aforementioned tips work. But. Since your sensitive spouses have noticed that you got the feeling of their escapades, they will definitely make it more elusive and more difficult to be detected.
And it will take days or even months to gather all the information you want.
Tip 4. Less time-consuming choice: Recover deleted text messages from a Cheating Spouse’s mobileNowadays, we are all addicted to our phones almost all day long. Mobile data, especially text messages, contains every secret you have.
If you have ever seen the episode “ The Entire History of You” from Black Mirror, you won’t be surprised that your cheating spouses will delete anything considered as evidence of their escapades (e.g., messages, call logs, contacts, etc.), when they are aware of something.
(Screenshots from the Black Mirror episode 3: The Entire History of You, which concludes with a disturbing drama about a cheating wife.)
However, you can undelete it.
Data recovery from iPhone and android mobile is way too easy nowadays if you pick the right tools.
You can find a lot of data recovery software by googling “iPhone data recovery”, “iOS data recovery “or “Android data recovery”.
What’s more, in case you don’t have enough time to test all these software (since not all of them are reliable), here are two ready-made selections of data recovery software:
- Best iPhone Data Recovery Software Review on Win/Mac
- Best (Top 5) Android Data Recovery Software on Windows/Mac Reviews.
Choose one of the most highly recommended data recovery software. For example, Fonelab for iOS Or Fonelab for Android is generally acknowledged as the most effective and has the highest iPhone/android data recovering rate in the market.
And here are 3 steps for you to retrieve deleted text message/call logs from your cheating spouse’s mobile.
Step 1. Connect your spouse’s mobile with a computer.
Launch iOS Data Recovery/ Android Data Recovery. Connect your spouse’s iOS/Android device to the computer with a USB cable. Click on “Data recovery”. No password is needed.
Step 2. Scan your spouse’s mobile to recover deleted data on it.
Click the “Start Scan” to let the program scan the device. The process will last seconds to a few minutes, depending on the amount of data on the device. Don't unplug the phone during the scanning.
Step 3. Preview the scanned data and reveal the cheater’s true colors.
The scanned data generated by the program includes deleted and existing data, such as messages, photos & videos, contacts, call history, WhatsApp, Messenger, Viber, Kik, etc. Just one click on the “Recover” button. You can simply find the messages, and photos exchanged and desired expressed with the operation interface.
So far, you have got some clues, mostly, texts with the phone number of the home wrecker. And it’s time to know who she/he is in real life.
Reverse Lookup
With the information you get from recovering the deleted data of your cheating spouse’s mobile or monitoring with mSpy, you can easily locate the one whom your spouse is cheating.
3 Freeways to reverse lookup with phone number
#1 Google it.
Google is the best search engine all around the world. It has the ability to dig things out of the darkest and remotest corners of the internet. Google the phone number, sometimes you can score a direct hit. Worth a shot.
#2 Facebook searching.
With the social networking penetration of all aspects of real life, Facebook is the best way to lookup based on a phone number. Just enter the phone number in the search box at the top of your Facebook homepage. If someone has their phone number associated with their Facebook profile, their name will appear as the top search result, despite all of their privacy settings and even if you are not friends.
#3 Free reverse search engine.
There are a few free reverse phone lookup websites, such as peoplefinders.com, zlookup.com, and spydialer.com, etc. Performing a reverse phone search with these websites, you may find out the address, name, landline number or email.
At this point, you have ripped away the secrecy your spouse kept for so long. Perhaps you need some time to calm down, and figure out how to face this awful mess.
Talk and plan for unexpected
Talk to your partner.
It’s unfair, but it seems the only way to untie the painful emotional knots by talking about it with your lover.
Knowing what are they thinking, and what is their choice. You may be expecting a confession or a fight, but you should stay rational and patient. All you got is a life lesson, a reward for your mental maturity.
Should I Forgive Him/Her?
Well, don't let your friends, family, and the results you search on Google decide for you. Follow your heart and make your own decision.
Don’t be obsessed with the past. Trust me, it won’t be worth mentioning soon.
Planning for the worst.
Divorce. If you two get to this point, unfortunately, you should know how to protect yourself and prove infidelity in court for a divorce.
Revenge. Yes. You may be filled with so much hate and anger. And hatred breeds revenge. But you should use this inner power wisely. You should always keep in mind that the best revenge is to improve yourself.
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To Recap
It’s miserable to be cheated by your lover. But being a sitting duck is not a wise option. To prove his/ her infidelity, you can keep track of all the suspicious acts of your cheating spouse by keeping a journal, using a spy app to monitor his/her phone, or recovering deleted information from his/her handset. Pull yourself together, confront your cheater spouse and plan for the worst. You can make it through.
At last, here is a Ted video suitable for your state of mind recommending to you.
Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel
I hope you enjoyed reading this post.
